Dear Me, From Past Me

Recently I produced a blog post writing an open letter to my younger self. This has myself thinking. What do I want to remember from now? What would I tell my future self? And so, here is a letter to my future self. Everything I want to say, know and do.

To Future Steph,

I have a few questions… Are flying cars real yet? Have we successfully built artificial intelligence? Who’s running the country…a robot? How’ve we done in life? Okay, I’ll stop asking, if we still have the same personality I know you want me to slow down. We are currently in our twenty-second-year of life… nearly twenty three, and we’ve finally decided what we want to do with life so, overall we are doing pretty well. And I hope we are still kicking arse now! With family, with work, with life in general.

So, it has been a pretty stressful time for us over the last few years but, we’re finally coming out of the other side. We graduated- dressed fabulously I might add, we have got a job and we are happy. I hope you still are. I just want to say that although there are things that may get you down in life- if you just stand your ground and believe in yourself we can do anything. I think we are doing pretty amazingly now. Oh, I thought of another question…has our brothers taste in music changed? Does he like classics such as AC/DC and not that stuff with beats and no lyrics….. If it hasn’t we need to do something stat.

Right, we are going on our first girls holiday soon to Barcelona and it will be beautiful and gorgeous. How are the girls? And who was the first one to have kids? We’ll be taking plenty of pictures to look back on so, if you forget about the adventure, there will be reminders. Oh, does Facebook still exist? As you can tell, we are still chatty and inquisitive but, I don’t expect that to change. Just remember to continue asking the hard questions, that will get you far in life. You are doing pretty good now I believe.

We are still keeping fit, standing our ground and trying to excel in life here. It’s the best way to achieve our goals. We’ve set a few new ones this year such as this very blog’s increasing traffic, and getting healthy, baking more for everyone and getting better. You know it is our year. WE DID THIS. Do we have loads of dogs? I think we do. If I know me! It is something we talk about and of course, we have more tattoos. If there is some way you can psychically tell me what we choose, I’ll get right on that. We are planning on two more tattoos this year at least. How big? And where? Well, we aren’t that far ahead just yet. We’ll figure it out.

How is the family? Is dad still embarrassing us with his dad dancing? I had a taster today and I’m scarred for life. You are probably still feeling the affect of that… I’m sorry, we should have closed our eyes. Is mum still baking bread and cakes? Or are they just travelling the world in their little motorhome while we worry? Currently, it looks like family life is getting back on track which is brilliant. Just remember- 1,2,3,4….7,8,9,10. Oh and if you want a laugh then just remember a few weeks ago when dad did a celebratory dance because he got the word ’emoji’ on Countdown. He’s probably still as competitive now. We are a few weeks into the six nations. Of course, you know the result so just send those positive vibes to the England rugby teams for us. Your the best.

Anyway, I think that’s enough for now. Although, we will talk again.

See you in the future

Past Steph- an awesome redhead.



Brussel Sprouts: The Marmite of Christmas

Love ’em or hate ’em, brussel sprouts cause debate across the nation. They aren’t everyone’s favourite vegetable, and people try to avoid them if possible unless you absolutely love them. Opinion is divided in my house, three people; myself, dad and nan love ’em and three others are forced to eat them once a year on Christmas day; mum, John and grandad. It is genuinely amusing to watch my brother cover them in mash potatoes and pull the face a two-year old makes when they are forced to eat something they don’t want or like.

Have you seen this years marmite advert? Wherein the people get a ‘genetic test’ to see if they are marmite lovers or haters…well that little boy who screams

“I hate it, I hate it” *and stomps off*

is my brother. I’m convinced there should be a Christmas themed version of the advert. Marmite makers? Get on it! If you haven’t seen it, here it is:

So, back to the sprout. I heard the most hilarious Christmas story on Radio 2 about confessions. It’s about brussel sprouts, a dog and a break-up after over the holidays. Here goes, this women had drifted from her partner and they’d decided to go to seperate places over the Christmas holiday. They shared a dog, and she took the dog with her for the holidays. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, well not in this case so after Christmas they decided to break up and he had the dog. Well before returning the dog to him, they’d got some leftover sprouts… the poor vegetable- it wants to be eaten and it is used a weapon… The dog had already had its breakfast but, she also gave him a bowl of sprouts. Let’s just say that would be one very long, smelly three hour journey back to his place. It had me in tears.

As you can see, the sprout gets a bad rap. Used as a weapon, left to go cold and abandoned in most houses but it isn’t all bad. I love a good brussel sprout. The more on my plate, the happier I am. But, it might not be up to you. I stumbled across a Facebook article from Derby University which suggested that loving or hating the brussel sprout is actually to do with your genes. So, it may not be your fault. For anyone interested, here is the link for you to read: Click here

brussel sprouts in a bowl on a chopping board
It could be genetic!

For those who love ’em, carry on championing the brussel sprout and for those who hate ’em just because it could be a genetic preference it doesn’t mean you get to not eat them at Christmas (yes I’m talking to you mum). Embrace the marmite of Christmas, the brussel sprout is a brilliant little vegetable that deserves a little bit of love.


Hello Old Friend!

It’s been a while since my last blog post…around eight weeks and normally I produce AT least a post a month if not two. But the last eight weeks have been absolutely bonkers! Where do I start? Well, I had a short stay in the hospital for a week followed by four more weeks of recovery so I wasn’t really up for blogging at the time. Next, I got really busy looking for a job, catching up with old friends, spending time with my family and getting back into running. And I got a Xmas Temp job at Tesco’s as a picker. So, I pick your food if you order online for the next 8 weeks or so. But, I’m hoping to get a full time job and begin my career. I’m interested in HR or Communications/Media. Yes, I finally feel like I’m getting my life on track which includes getting a Masters if I haven’t found a full time position before next September.

So, as you can see it has been a pretty drama filled eight weeks. And it makes you reflect especially when you get hit out of the blue with illness that later turned into a small operation. So, here is what I’ve reflected on or thought about over the last eight weeks.

Life likes to throw obstacles every now and again- I didn’t plan on getting ill, I asked everyday if I could go home yet and when I was home I had to recover. It wasn’t expected but, sometimes life throws an obstacle and its how you deal with it that defines YOU. It hurt, and I couldn’t stand up straight for a week but I got through it with the support of my parents and friends and it allowed myself to stop, take a breath and really think about what I want. In hindsight, it really helped to have six weeks of a breather. And dealing with this obstacle has really helped me to grow stronger as a person. I know I can deal with more now, after dealing with this!

End of my stay- I was feeling much better

Try, try, try again- We’ve all seen the advert on TV with famous sports stars and kids saying this phrase. Every time it comes on, I sit there and enjoy the advert because it’s good advice! So when the time can two weeks ago, when I could begin running again- I ran twice in one week. I completed six and a half miles overall which is one mile for every week of illness. Also, to continue running I’ve signed up for the Santa Run at my local leisure centre which gives me a goal to aim for, in terms of peaking in fitness again. So, my motto is ‘try, try, try again’. If at first you do not succeed continue trying because you’ve only failed if you stop and give in. 


Let it go- If there is anything in life that still bugs you, if you still feel angry or sad or whatever about any situation that has ever happened in your life just let it go! I’m a positive person, and I have been for the last few years and that is because the only way to get through life is to keep on smiling and think positively. And there isn’t always a lot to do when you can’ really move or lift stuff so you get bored after a while and your mind wonders. But, I put a smile on my face and thought positively and that helped and that is because whatever has happened in your past ever, if you work on letting it go- happiness, a positive optimistic attitude and just smiling comes easier. So, as that annoying Frozen song goes- Let it go.


Make a list- While I was bored, I made a list in my head of books I wanted to read and I’m aiming to get through them by Christmas so, I’ve started with the largest book on my list: American Gods. And let me tell you, I’m coming to the end now of this book so it has took me a lot longer than usual. Next, I would like to read The Hobbit and Lord of the Rings- also big books, and finally Game of Thrones- if I can complete my set in the next eight weeks as I’m missing ‘A Feast for Crows’ and ‘A Dance with Dragons Part 1: Dreams and Dust’. You see I have never paid full price for any of them so, I have been searching charity shops and market stalls for them. This list helped me keep focused on doing something, it gave me a goal and I think making a list of something you want to do is great. It is simply something personal for you and no one else. Why don’t you try now?

I also had some really random thoughts as well, just stuff I’m not sure about such as;

  1. Why do bumblebees fly into your windows?
  2. What do you call a baby pigeon? Is it something specific or just baby pigeon…
  3.  How do you get rid of old pairs of glasses?
  4. I wonder what films the Harry Potter Cast like?-I watched them while I had time
  5. Afternoon naps- I miss them! 

And many more thoughts too. These are just a few. Well, I feel like I’ve caught you up on life at the moment for myself. Now, I’m going to plan a few blog posts and try and post once a week up till Christmas. Expect a Christmas song post at the beginning of December guys!

Boat on water, with three rings and rope on water in lake district-Conniston.

Time to Embrace Change!

So, I’m about to start a new adventure, one to propel me into adulthood because I’ve recently completed my last assignment of a university degree and unless, something goes terribly wrong then I’m hoping to have passed. Now, I find myself looking forward to the future, reconsidering my past and embracing the present. Of course, your own worst enemy is yourself.

I have a list of things to complete:

  1. Get a Job
  2. Travel
  3. Buy a Car
  4. Go Back to do a Masters Eventually…

But for now, I’ll settle with planning trips with my friends, looking forward to graduation, making memories and finding a job. Yet I still find myself looking at the first nearly twenty-two years of my life and wondering what would have happened if I’d have took a few different turns on the road of life. I know it is said, that you should never look back, you should always look forward but, I cannot help and think that I would not be the person I am today without my past, and I would never have gone to university.

The Past

Well, as a kid I was sporty and I still love sports today even if it is more recreational and a great de-stresser so, I do find myself wondering about a path in sports. My other love is reading, I’ve always been interested in books and I love to snuggle in a small corner with my book and just get drawn into magical worlds. So, I also wonder about a path into this field somehow. On top of that, over the years there have been many friends with good and bad experiences felt yet, I never hate the people I’m no longer in touch with. That’s Life! I wish them happiness and a positive life as I have managed to find. But, the thing is all of life events have shaped me whether its struggles, heartache or reaching goals and being a high achiever and I’m proud of where I am today because of this, and I hope other people can find the same feeling.

The Present

Well, as I mentioned I’m about to finish my undergraduate degree alongside nearly a year of blogging which I immensely proud of. It allows me to deal with my feelings, blog about life and speak to the world. So, I wonder if I could utilise this for a career, its enjoyable and I’d love to mix it with my other passions. Now I find myself looking for jobs and truly embracing adulthood because as a student I have noticed you are adults but, not quite? It is like the popular internet meme wherein someone suggests in adult situations they look for an adultier adult, which I find myself agreeing with. However, I am young so I can experience life, and where it takes me at my own pace. I think I’m a lot more zen nowadays, it goes with the positive outlook. You can’t change what you can’t control, so why do I have to control every situation? And, the way you look out on life, reflects your mental state among other things! So, I’m even more proud of myself when I look at the present alongside the past. And, with a life goal achieved I’m ready to look forward to the next!

The Future

I don’t know what that holds. I would hope a family, and travel and love and a career but, I cannot control everything. Although, beginning my steps into a career include sorting out my CV and finding something I’d love to do. I think the future is a mystery, it could go anywhere and I’m happy to take that road to see what I can achieve. I am a very goal orientated person, and I will set myself goals and achieve them when I can!

So, this short post is a bit reflexive and I know my blog has been reflecting on life lately however, when you are reaching the end of a chapter for your life then its time to look back and maybe try re-reading a few worn pages. Before I start writing the next chapter, and I do not have as much time to look back on life. It’s time to take that leap. Maybe, we should all look back, to the present and the future and be proud of who you’ve become.