Life, Student Life

Hey! You…I Never Said It Would be An Easy Decision-Dilemma

We all face dilemmas…day in, day out and its making those difficult choices that allow us to grow and succeed as a person, and in life. Whether it’s a personal dilemma, a moral one, a friendship one or a life dilemma we all have to make the difficult decisions.

For example, I looked at today’s daily prompt Strut and had no idea what to write. I was in a dilemma between that and choosing a different topic to ruminate upon. As you can see, I’ve made my decision and faced the dilemma at hand- choosing a different topic although, in the grand scheme of things you can say it relates to the daily prompt in an off-topic kind of way. I wanted to create my own prompt almost, and dilemma is the first word that came to mind. We’ve all faced horrible decisions wherein one person may be affected in some way that is so hard you just don’t know what to do…well that is a DILEMMA!

Dilemma can be defined as…

“…a situation in which a difficult choice has to be made between two or more alternatives, especially ones that are equally undesirable.”

And the synonyms suggested such as problem, predicament and my favourite PUZZLE go on forever. But, do we always have to feel guilty about making a decision when a dilemma is involved?! I think not. Sometimes you can be faced with a difficult decision and choosing to move away from the problem is the best answer but, that does not mean you should feel guilt or bad in whatever way. Sometimes you just have to STRUT your stuff, stand proud and make the best decision for you. I’ve never been faced with a moral dilemma personally…well I don’t think so but, when the time comes I will weigh up both sides and choose what is best for myself. You see dilemmas include an emotional component as well as a logical component so, you have to make the decision which balances these two components best for you!

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Strut Your Stuff Honey!

It’s dissertation season for third years and if you haven’t already thought about that final project it may be time. This includes making decisions between a variety of issues and you better believe the dissertation is emotional as well as logical.

Do you choose:

  1. Written Piece V Practical Project?- If you are better at writing it would be logical for you to choose a written piece but, would you be able to cope with the research, the schedule and the stress that comes with it. In that case, you better choose a practical project but how good is it going to be? Can you guarantee a good outcome, a good grade? Is it worth the risk? And how will it help or hinder in the future? But, still there needs to be time made and it could cause more stress.
  2. All Year Assignment V Second Semester Assignment?- Similarly, stress and time is a big factor within this. However, it isn’t like your other assignments wherein you can complete it the night before. That guarantees you fail. But, is there time to start this semester or have you got outside factors affecting you time limit. It’s serious and you need to make a decision.
  3. Go Out or Stay in?- It is hard and you should make time to go out and enjoy yourselves but, then there is a dilemma of whether you are going out to unwind or is it because you are avoiding something. If it is the second statement then you certainly need to stay in. I managed to balance friends, life and illness with my dissertation and Yes, I wrote it in a week but that was after months of research.

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Go ahead, makes those decisions whatever they may be because I can guarantee that some of your issues, some of the stress of life or university is because you aren’t facing those difficult decisions. The best decisions I’ve ever made have been when I am faced with a dilemma, and backed into a corner! Once that weight has been lifted…then you can STRUT your stuff.

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Life

Hello Old Friend!

It’s been a while since my last blog post…around eight weeks and normally I produce AT least a post a month if not two. But the last eight weeks have been absolutely bonkers! Where do I start? Well, I had a short stay in the hospital for a week followed by four more weeks of recovery so I wasn’t really up for blogging at the time. Next, I got really busy looking for a job, catching up with old friends, spending time with my family and getting back into running. And I got a Xmas Temp job at Tesco’s as a picker. So, I pick your food if you order online for the next 8 weeks or so. But, I’m hoping to get a full time job and begin my career. I’m interested in HR or Communications/Media. Yes, I finally feel like I’m getting my life on track which includes getting a Masters if I haven’t found a full time position before next September.

So, as you can see it has been a pretty drama filled eight weeks. And it makes you reflect especially when you get hit out of the blue with illness that later turned into a small operation. So, here is what I’ve reflected on or thought about over the last eight weeks.

Life likes to throw obstacles every now and again- I didn’t plan on getting ill, I asked everyday if I could go home yet and when I was home I had to recover. It wasn’t expected but, sometimes life throws an obstacle and its how you deal with it that defines YOU. It hurt, and I couldn’t stand up straight for a week but I got through it with the support of my parents and friends and it allowed myself to stop, take a breath and really think about what I want. In hindsight, it really helped to have six weeks of a breather. And dealing with this obstacle has really helped me to grow stronger as a person. I know I can deal with more now, after dealing with this!

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End of my stay- I was feeling much better

Try, try, try again- We’ve all seen the advert on TV with famous sports stars and kids saying this phrase. Every time it comes on, I sit there and enjoy the advert because it’s good advice! So when the time can two weeks ago, when I could begin running again- I ran twice in one week. I completed six and a half miles overall which is one mile for every week of illness. Also, to continue running I’ve signed up for the Santa Run at my local leisure centre which gives me a goal to aim for, in terms of peaking in fitness again. So, my motto is ‘try, try, try again’. If at first you do not succeed continue trying because you’ve only failed if you stop and give in. 

 

Let it go- If there is anything in life that still bugs you, if you still feel angry or sad or whatever about any situation that has ever happened in your life just let it go! I’m a positive person, and I have been for the last few years and that is because the only way to get through life is to keep on smiling and think positively. And there isn’t always a lot to do when you can’ really move or lift stuff so you get bored after a while and your mind wonders. But, I put a smile on my face and thought positively and that helped and that is because whatever has happened in your past ever, if you work on letting it go- happiness, a positive optimistic attitude and just smiling comes easier. So, as that annoying Frozen song goes- Let it go.

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Make a list- While I was bored, I made a list in my head of books I wanted to read and I’m aiming to get through them by Christmas so, I’ve started with the largest book on my list: American Gods. And let me tell you, I’m coming to the end now of this book so it has took me a lot longer than usual. Next, I would like to read The Hobbit and Lord of the Rings- also big books, and finally Game of Thrones- if I can complete my set in the next eight weeks as I’m missing ‘A Feast for Crows’ and ‘A Dance with Dragons Part 1: Dreams and Dust’. You see I have never paid full price for any of them so, I have been searching charity shops and market stalls for them. This list helped me keep focused on doing something, it gave me a goal and I think making a list of something you want to do is great. It is simply something personal for you and no one else. Why don’t you try now?

I also had some really random thoughts as well, just stuff I’m not sure about such as;

  1. Why do bumblebees fly into your windows?
  2. What do you call a baby pigeon? Is it something specific or just baby pigeon…
  3.  How do you get rid of old pairs of glasses?
  4. I wonder what films the Harry Potter Cast like?-I watched them while I had time
  5. Afternoon naps- I miss them! 

And many more thoughts too. These are just a few. Well, I feel like I’ve caught you up on life at the moment for myself. Now, I’m going to plan a few blog posts and try and post once a week up till Christmas. Expect a Christmas song post at the beginning of December guys!

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Life

Time to Embrace Change!

So, I’m about to start a new adventure, one to propel me into adulthood because I’ve recently completed my last assignment of a university degree and unless, something goes terribly wrong then I’m hoping to have passed. Now, I find myself looking forward to the future, reconsidering my past and embracing the present. Of course, your own worst enemy is yourself.

I have a list of things to complete:

  1. Get a Job
  2. Travel
  3. Buy a Car
  4. Go Back to do a Masters Eventually…

But for now, I’ll settle with planning trips with my friends, looking forward to graduation, making memories and finding a job. Yet I still find myself looking at the first nearly twenty-two years of my life and wondering what would have happened if I’d have took a few different turns on the road of life. I know it is said, that you should never look back, you should always look forward but, I cannot help and think that I would not be the person I am today without my past, and I would never have gone to university.

The Past

Well, as a kid I was sporty and I still love sports today even if it is more recreational and a great de-stresser so, I do find myself wondering about a path in sports. My other love is reading, I’ve always been interested in books and I love to snuggle in a small corner with my book and just get drawn into magical worlds. So, I also wonder about a path into this field somehow. On top of that, over the years there have been many friends with good and bad experiences felt yet, I never hate the people I’m no longer in touch with. That’s Life! I wish them happiness and a positive life as I have managed to find. But, the thing is all of life events have shaped me whether its struggles, heartache or reaching goals and being a high achiever and I’m proud of where I am today because of this, and I hope other people can find the same feeling.

The Present

Well, as I mentioned I’m about to finish my undergraduate degree alongside nearly a year of blogging which I immensely proud of. It allows me to deal with my feelings, blog about life and speak to the world. So, I wonder if I could utilise this for a career, its enjoyable and I’d love to mix it with my other passions. Now I find myself looking for jobs and truly embracing adulthood because as a student I have noticed you are adults but, not quite? It is like the popular internet meme wherein someone suggests in adult situations they look for an adultier adult, which I find myself agreeing with. However, I am young so I can experience life, and where it takes me at my own pace. I think I’m a lot more zen nowadays, it goes with the positive outlook. You can’t change what you can’t control, so why do I have to control every situation? And, the way you look out on life, reflects your mental state among other things! So, I’m even more proud of myself when I look at the present alongside the past. And, with a life goal achieved I’m ready to look forward to the next!

The Future

I don’t know what that holds. I would hope a family, and travel and love and a career but, I cannot control everything. Although, beginning my steps into a career include sorting out my CV and finding something I’d love to do. I think the future is a mystery, it could go anywhere and I’m happy to take that road to see what I can achieve. I am a very goal orientated person, and I will set myself goals and achieve them when I can!

So, this short post is a bit reflexive and I know my blog has been reflecting on life lately however, when you are reaching the end of a chapter for your life then its time to look back and maybe try re-reading a few worn pages. Before I start writing the next chapter, and I do not have as much time to look back on life. It’s time to take that leap. Maybe, we should all look back, to the present and the future and be proud of who you’ve become.